Posts tagged ‘parenting’

April 23, 2012

sugar free

A thought-provoking book about agendas & politics & how they trickle into education, media, & our culture.

Don't Let the Kids Drink the Kool-Aid: Confronting the Left's Assault on Our Families, Faith, and Freedom

Looking to protect traditional values & parental rights, Marybeth Hicks gives notice through example & intellect as to why parents should pay attention.

Interesting points from book:

  • socialism is easily instilled in children due to their limited understanding of justice
  • the public costs of family breakdown among working class & poor communities exceed $112 billion/year (pg. 28)
  • “America’s children are learning an entirely backward interpretation of separation of church & state – not that we are freely religious, but that our nation is meant to be religious-free”
  • political messages in television shows…entertaining, yes…conversation openers, YES
  • “The real cause of bullying is not intolerance for people who are different.  It is a lack of conscience & character in the hearts & souls of our children.”

Additional resources offered:

  1. www.parentalrights.org
  2. www.charactercounts.org
  3. www.parentstv.org

“Of all tyrannies a tyranny sincerely exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive.”  ~ C.S. Lewis

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April 19, 2012

check points

Yesterday, a friend (hi, Deb!) shared an awesome parenting tip regarding activity decision-making.  The reference was to sports, but the concept can be applied across the board for many age groups.

Ask the following three questions:

  1. Is he/she learning?
  2. Is he/she improving?
  3. Is he/she having fun?

Short, sweet, substantial.  Love it!  Do you have any quick parenting tips to share?

“God gives every bird his worm, but He does not throw it into the nest.”  ~ P.D. James

March 20, 2012

report card

Published in 2011, Push Has Come To Shove by Dr. Steve Perry delivers a raw & honest view of the state of education in our country.

Push Has Come to Shove: Getting Our Kids the Education They Deserve--Even If It Means Picking a Fight

Interesting points Dr. Perry states…:

  • nothing improves student performance as much as quality of instruction
  • parents are neither the cause nor the solution for the problems in our schools
  • many schools don’t know how to make parents useful partners
  • most good teachers don’t want anything to do with teachers’ unions
  • students know who the good teachers are
  • schools & educators derive some of their greatest growth from a sincere question

Additionally, Dr. Perry offers parenting thoughts from what is the best home atmosphere in promoting life-long learning to the challenges, including his own, of the 24/7 world of parenting.

  • “What I see in all successful parent-child relationships is humility & respect.”
  • 5 things parents can control (pg 95):  early reading, early numeracy, setting high expectations, curiosity, discipline
  • being a parent means putting your kids’ needs above your compulsions of adulthood while simultaneously keeping the you in you
  • “from the middle class up, we give our kids too damn much.”
  • successful students’ parents don’t do the studying for their kids, even if they do it together
  • successful kids are not perfect
  • create a shrine to learning in the home – read, watch what money is spent on as it reflects values, find educational toys supporting intellectual growth

“There’s always a price for what you want.”  ~ Dr. Steve Perry

March 8, 2012

risk vs. reward

As we learn more about the human brain & its development, we can apply more effective parenting & teaching strategies to help kids mature.  Inspiration & information for today’s blog comes from:  National Geographic’s October 2011 article Beautiful Brains by David Dobbs.  Another fabulous, entertaining article full of relevant & eloquently written discoveries.

Starting with points we know & have now been proven via MRI science & studies.  Adolescence can be:

  • emotional, trying
  • a risk taking era
  • a time when social interactions greatly influence motivation & behavior
  • full of inconsistent behavior

From age 12 thru 25, “….brains undergo a massive reorganization…”  “…as we move through adolescence, the brain undergoes extensive remodeling, resembling a network & wiring upgrade.”  The brain “upgrade” directly impacts performance, behaviors, etc..  Plus, positive or negative (stress, fatigue) variables add another layer to behaviors & decisions.  Other points to keep in mind:

  • teens tend to have a high regard for reward gleaned from taking a risk even though they may realize the consequences on a cognitive level (ie. they’re not stupid)
  • risk taking with success contributes to being able to adapt
  • the brain matures from back to front

Basic Parts of Brain

Switching gears…consider the following important fact:

“The United States spends about a billion dollars a year on programs to counsel adolescents on violence, gangs, suicide, sex, substance abuse, & other potential pitfalls. Few of them work.”

HUH.  Are you surprised?  What has the greatest impact on kids?  PARENTING!

  • share the brain development process with kids
  • guide children, do not helicopter parent
  • connect with kids & encourage independence
  • have patience!!
  • let kids fail..it is the best way to learn & the perfect lab to exercise  adaptation skills
  • remember that building social relationships is key to their success now & in the future

“Heredity is what sets the parents of a teenager wondering about each other.”  ~Laurence J. Peter

February 9, 2012

quoi?

A new book is out, purportedly about how French parents’ parenting is, in some ways, superior to Americans’.  (Bringing Up Bebe:  One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting  by Pamela Druckerman)

controversial laced generalizations = press = sales traffic   Capice?

Here’s where parents get into trouble:  comparing & competition

Take what you want out of parenting books, trust your instincts, & pray.

My top parenting tips:

  • be consistent
  • spend toooonnnnssss of time together
  • love, hugs, love, hugs, love
  • share dinner together
  • make home a sanctuary of peace, enthusiasm, exploration, creativity & relaxation

“Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.”  ~Robert Fulghum

 

November 1, 2011

candy crunch

What’s really scary on the 31st?  Candy haul management!  “Mom, can I have a piece of candy?”…2 minutes 14 seconds later…”Mom, can I have this laffy taffy?”…”Mom?…”  !!!!!!!!

Munch on these ideas:

  • pick your favorite 2 dozen & eat them whenever you want
  • send left-over candy to the office or any office!
  • sequester a few favorites for wintertime milkshakes
  • do experiments with the candy:  www.candyexperiments.com
  • learn barter & exchange skills with friends via candy auctioning
  • make crafts with the wrappers
  • save for gingerbread houses

“All the candy corn that was ever made was made in 1911.”  ~ Lewis Black

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